How to Deal with Annoying House Guests

How to Deal with Annoying House Guests

Don’t let an unmannerly house guest break up the happy home. Fight back their annoying habits with these three tips.

One topic I’ve been asked about often is what to do with obnoxious house guests. For this episode, I asked friends and family about their house guest gripes, and even thought back to my own personal experience when a certain house guest seemed more like a fungus than a friend. And I say that only because one house guest I had in college literally grew fungus on his clothes because he never bathed. It was disgusting. By no means is this the master list, so as always, share your disaster stories on my Facebook page. So, here are my top three tips for how to deal with an unmannerly houseguest.

Tip #1: How to Deal When the House Guest Is a Slob

Some house guests view their stay at your home as a stay at a resort. They lounge, they watch TV, they eat some good food, they sleep, they talk loudly, and then they sleep some more… and some more… and so on.

Anyone who has ever had to work for something knows to value those things they’ve proudly purchased—like their home. So when Joe Shmoe decides to trash your house, you have to let him know that it is not acceptable. You can take the nursery school teacher approach and play the “Everyone Cleans Up” song, hoping he’ll catch on—which he won’t. Or you can have a good ol’ sit-down to discuss his lack of proper care for your house. I’d opt for the sit-down.

If you like, you can even play it like you’re the “issue” to ease any awkwardness. Say something like, “Did I mention how much of a neat freak I am? Yeah, I know, it’s wacky but can you do me a favor and just make sure your stuff is all together in one area? And if you move something, just put it back? Sound cool?” This is a “friendlier” way to let them know there are certain boundaries you have that should be followed in YOUR home.

This may not be easy, but look at what you’ve done already for them. If they even have the nerve to say, “You are overreacting; I am not messy!” then that alone should be their ticket out of town. Let them know you keep the place neat and if they don’t like it, there is another couch in someone else’s house you’re sure they’ll enjoy.

Tip #2: How to Deal with House Guests Who Overstay Their Welcome

Unfortunately, you will probably never hear a houseguest say, “You’re right; I’ve been here for way too long, taking advantage of you and really being a bum. Thanks for pointing that out… Can we still be friends?”

The best way to avoid making your house guest your new fulltime roommate is to lay down the ground rules ahead of time. Look, we’re all adults and talking like adults should be easy—even for hard-to-talk-about topics like this one. Any potential taking advantage of your kindness can be squashed from day one by laying out the ground rules that first night. Be honest too and don’t hold back.

[[AdMiddle]Let the house guest know you can’t do this for more than X number of days or weeks. Tell her that you live by yourself or with only one other person because you need a certain level of privacy to function. On X day you take out the trash, on X day you like to clean, etc. You have a life and just because she is staying with you—regardless of how much you love her—you can’t change everything around just for her. That does not make you a bad friend; it makes you normal! Establish how long someone can stay right upfront and save yourself the drama later on. Trust me.

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13 Things a House Guest Should Not Do

Leave Your Bad Habits Behind When Visiting Friends and Family

Have you ever been the host of rude houseguests? Or are you the houseguest who has family members and friends running in the other direction when they see you coming?

Being a houseguest carries some responsibilities that you need to understand. Bad manners will keep you from being invited back.

What to Do

If you plan to visit someone and stay overnight, spend some time brushing up on the basic etiquette guidelines of a well-mannered guest. Follow house rules, don’t forget to bring a hostess gift, and of course, send a thank you note after you leave. It’s not that difficult if you get in the habit of having good manners.

What Not to Do

Here are 13 ways a houseguest is sure to annoy a host:

  1. Forget to ask about house rules. Everyone has them, so make that the first thing you do when you arrive…or even better, before you go. Share them with all family members who will be with you and emphasize the importance of following them. Some of the rules may not make sense to you, but there is a reason the host family has them. And please, don’t question or challenge them.
  2. Leave a trail of clutter. Most hosts expect a little bit of disorder when guests stay in their home, but don’t be the person who leaves dirty socks and underwear leading from the bathroom to the bedroom. If you accidentally squirt extra toothpaste that lands on the counter, don’t leave it for the host to deal with. You should have more pride in yourself than that, and there is no excuse for making more work than necessary for your host. If you want someone to pick up after you, stay in a hotel.
  3. Take over the house. When you visit someone, don’t bring a carload of your personal belongings into their home. Bring only what you need for the stay. You also shouldn’t act like you own the place. Your host has graciously allowed you to stay in her home, so treat the privilege with care and respect.
  4. Stay up all night watching TV or blasting the stereo. Never cause your hosts to lose sleep, or you might wind up face-to-face with a sleep-deprived, angry person who will do anything to get you to leave. Respect the time for lights-out, even if you find yourself staring up at a dark ceiling because you’re normally a night owl.
  5. Smoke in a non-smoking home. You should never light up in the home of someone who doesn’t smoke. It’s rude and can make the hosts angry and possibly even sick. If you can’t resist a cigarette, go outside to smoke and remember to properly dispose of your matches and butts. Don’t even think about trying to sneak a smoke in the bathroom; the host will know, and it will put you in a terrible light.
  6. Be demanding or finicky. If you visit someone’s home, be as gracious as possible during all events they plan for you – including meals. Never turn your nose up at any food. If you don’t care for it, be discreet and eat around it. If they want to take you to the zoo, don’t let on that you don’t like animals. You might be allergic to your host’s pets, but you should never expect them to be banished to the backyard while you are there. You’d be better off staying at a nearby hotel and visiting the hosts on neutral ground than demanding that they make major changes to accommodate you.
  7. Be snobby. Okay, so your host’s house is half the size of yours and the food isn’t the gourmet fare you’re used to. What’s the big deal? You’re the one getting the free room and board, so plant your feet firmly on the floor and enjoy a down-to-earth vacation. Your host will not appreciate a snobby guest.
  8. Be inconsiderate of time and plans. When your host tells you that dinner will be served at seven, be there early enough to get washed up and help set the table. Never show up late and expect the host family to wait for you. If you want to be extra nice, offer to help prepare the meal. It goes without saying that you should help clean up afterward. Not doing so is rude and disrespectful.
  9. Forget the value and expense of utilities. Don’t forget that water and electricity cost money. Keep your shower short and turn the lights off when you leave the room.
  10. Bring Fido or Muffin. When visiting someone’s home, don’t bring your family pet unless the host specifically asks you to. This can be a terrible imposition on someone who isn’t used to being around animals. And if they have pets, you might find yourself having to referee a dogfight.
  11. Expect to be entertained. Count your blessings that you have a nice home to stay in. If you want entertainment, find it on your own, unless your host specifically states that it will be provided.
  12. Stay too long. Most hosts don’t mind putting up with guests for a couple or three nights, but beyond that may be asking too much. You’re better off leaving before the host is ready to let you go than staying past time she wants to give you a swift kick out the door. At a certain point, the party is over, and it’s time to get back to everyday life. Both you and the host will look forward to seeing each other again if you don’t overstay your welcome.
  13. Speak negatively about the host family after you leave. When you stay in someone’s home, you’re bound to see them at their best and their worst. Remember that no one is perfect. If you don’t care for something about the way they do things, let it go. Never gossip about them to anyone.

Being a good houseguest requires a mix of kindness, humor, and good manners. If you follow the basic guidelines of proper guest etiquette, you’re likely to get invited back. Also, don’t forget to send a thank you note and offer your home when your host plans a visit to your area.

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The Arcana: Upright and Reversed Walkthroughs for main characters

By Staff, Thursday, 9 January 2020 16:21 GMT

Waiting at the end of your magical tales of romance are multiple endings for each of The Arcana’s main characters: Upright and Reversed. Although you can’t fail in winning your crush’s affections, as you stroll through The Arcana’s rich narrative lasting decisions need to be made.

Whether you see the Upright or Reversed ending for your phone-game paramour is down to the choices you make throughout your story together. Help them to be a better person and you’ll see the Upright ending. But give in to their worst impulses and you’ll see the Reversed ending.

Generally speaking, you can consider the Upright ending for each character the “good” ending, where everything is rosy and warm. While the Reversed ending is the “bad” ending, where things don’t quite go to plan – but at least you have love. There aren’t quite as many choices as something like Mystic Messenger, but still rather a lot.

The first five books of The Arcana are standalone and don’t impact the ending of any character. Choose whatever we wish as you play through.

It also has been confirmed on The Arcana’s official Tumblr that paid story scenes do not influence the ending you see. Also choose them at your preference.

Below are walkthroughs for each of the three core characters, who’ve had their initial arc completed: Julian, Asra, and Nadia.

If you’ve already started down your favourite’s story route and chosen a few answers in a chapter or two which don’t fit with your desired ending, not to worry. From what we’ve played it doesn’t seem like you’re totally locked into one path early on. This means you can just make up for it by picking the “right” choices from where you are.

The embedded Tumblr posts were created by Anput’s Arcana via Arcana Resources. Credit for the original work is attributed to the Arcana Fandom, where you can find more information on the game’s world and characters. The following tables are based on this data.

Not every choice matters to the final result, so only the key ones are listed.

The Arcana: Julian Walkthrough Upright & Reversed

Julian Upright Walkthrough

Book Chapter Choice
The Chariot Nightmares «You can come back»
The Hermit Helping Hands «Yes, I did»
The Hermit Helping Hands «Are you missing anything»
The Hermit Helping Hands «I want to find the truth»
The Hermit Celebrity Gossip «You don’t need to be useful»
The Hermit Celebrity Gossip «No deal»
The Hermit Celebrity Gossip «No deal»
The Hermit Lost and Found «Let’s Go»
The Hermit Lost and Found «Comfort the wolf»
The Hermit Lost and Found «How did it happen»
The Hermit Lost and Found «Are you happy»
Wheel of Fortune A Hairy Situation «We should go»
Wheel of Forture Rock Bottom «Why are you here»
Wheel of Fortune Rock Bottom «He said he wanted a future with me»
Justice Right From Wrong «Drop the act»
Justice Right From Wrong «But I did»
Justice Pursuit of Knowledge «What was he like»
Justice Pursuit of Knowledge «Why would he do this»
Justice Duelling Prosecutors «The facts don’t add up»
Justice Duelling Prosecutors «You were locked up»
Justice Duelling Prosecutors «What can I do»
Justice Duelling Prosecutors «Why are you doing this»
The Hanged Man Full House «It could work»
The Hanged Man Full House «Yes, you should have»
The Hanged Man When to Fold «Calm down and think»
Death A Sea Change «Stop Fighting»
Death A Sea Change «Go on the offense»
Death A Sea Change «You can’t save everyone»
Temperance An Uninvited Guest «Listen to Julian»
Temperance An Uninvited Guest «Deal me in»
The Devil Best Laid Plans «We’ll stop this time»
The Devil Best Laid Plans «I’d prefer it with fewer goats»
The Devil Best Laid Plans «Why are you helping Lucio»
The Devil Best Laid Plans «I refuse»
The Tower Head Over Heels «Let’s follow them»
The Tower Head Over Heels «Pull him back»
The Tower Head Over Heels «We can do this together»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «I’m sure she’s okay»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «Maybe there’s another way down»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «Let’s not and say we did»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «We’re not in this alone»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «It’s my life»
The Moon Dream Within A Dream «I have to try»
The Sun On The Precipice «Portia’s cottage»
The Sun On The Precipice «It has to work»
The Sun On The Precipice «It’s the right thing to do»
The Sun On The Precipice «Why are you doing this»

Julian Reversed Walkthrough

Book Chapter Choice
The Chariot Nightmares «I’ll forgive you»
The Hermit Helping Hands «Not yet»
The Hermit Helping Hands «Am I cursed»
The Hermit Helping Hands «Because no one else will»
The Hermit Celebrity Gossip «I’ll find some use for you»
The Hermit Celebrity Gossip «Deal»
The Hermit Celebrity Gossip «Deal»
The Hermit Lost and Found «We should wait»
The Hermit Lost and Found «Try talking to him»
The Hermit Lost and Found «Have we met before»
The Hermit Lost and Found «That is a blessing»
Wheel of Fortune A Hairy Situation «Play along»
Wheel of Forture Rock Bottom «I’m investigating»
Wheel of Fortune Rock Bottom «He would never do that»
Justice Right From Wrong «But you’re innocent»
Justice Right From Wrong «That’s not true»
Justice Pursuit of Knowledge «What did he do exactly»
Justice Pursuit of Knowledge «He would never do this»
Justice Duelling Prosecutors «He’s a good person»
Justice Duelling Prosecutors «Nobody saw you»
Justice Duelling Prosecutors «You have to stop this»
Justice Duelling Prosecutors «Stop prosecuting yourself»
The Hanged Man Full House «Once is all it takes»
The Hanged Man Full House «You had your reasons»
The Hanged Man When to Fold «Keep trying»
Death A Sea Change «Struggle»
Death A Sea Change «Get away from him»
Death A Sea Change «You’ll save me in the future»
Temperance An Uninvited Guest «Chase the goat»
Temperance An Uninvited Guest «I’d rather watch»
The Devil Best Laid Plans «I’m worried too»
The Devil Best Laid Plans «It’s wonderful»
The Devil Best Laid Plans «Why deal with us»
The Devil Best Laid Plans «I accept»
The Tower Head Over Heels «I don’t trust them»
The Tower Head Over Heels «Take a look»
The Tower Head Over Heels «It’s okay you don’t have to»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «I’m worried too»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «We should follow Scout»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «We really should follow Scout»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «That’s a problem for future us»
The Star Straight On ’til Morning «I care about you too»
The Moon Dream Within A Dream «Run»
The Sun On The Precipice «The Rowdy Raven»
The Sun On The Precipice «It’s risky»
The Sun On The Precipice «For love»
The Sun On The Precipice «You won’t get away with this»

The Arcana: Asra Walkthrough Upright & Reversed

Asra Upright Walkthrough

Book Chapter Choice
The Chariot Reunion «This smells familiar»
The Chariot Enter The Cave «I can do it»
The Chariot Sanctuary «He didn’t scare me»
The Chariot Sanctuary «What did he say to you»
Strength The Low Road «A big city»
Strength Away From It All «I think I had a bad dream»
Strength Away From It All «Let’s go»
Strength Away From It All «Let me help you»
Strength No Escape «Ask Asra to dance with you»
The Hermit The Hermit «Good thing you had each other»
Wheel of Fortune Hungry Eyes «Don’t»
Wheel of Fortune Hungry Eyes «We found something worse»
Justice Bound Together «You do vanish sometimes»
Justice The Whole Truth «Tell them the truth»
The Hanged Man Calm Before The Storm «Let me help»
The Hanged Man Calm Before The Storm «Tell her everything»
The Hanged Man Last Rites «I’m not sure»
The Hanged Man Last Rites «Listen to the Fool»
Death Shadow Of The Past «Leave the shop»
Death Shadow Of The Past «Did it change you»
Temperance Visions And Illusions «I have a question»
The Devil Faustian Bargain «Keep the guests safe»
The Devil Faustian Bargain «I also care about Faust»
The Devil Faustian Bargain «No»
The Tower Sound And Fury «What about you»
The Tower Sound And Fury «Take the paw»
The Tower Sound And Fury «Yes»
The Star Homeward Bound «I’m not afraid, let’s go»
The Star Homeward Bound «Break free»
The Star Homeward Bound «Use magic»
The Moon From The Other Side «Attack the tree»
The Moon From The Other Side «Asra, go help them»
The Moon From the Other Side «All right»
The Sun Full Circle «Kiss him for luck»
The Sun Full Circle «Stay put»

Asra Reversed Walkthrough

Book Chapter Choice
The Chariot Reunion «This smells delicious»
The Chariot Enter The Cave «But I don’t want to»
The Chariot Sanctuary «He scared me»
The Chariot Sanctuary «He said my name»
Strength The Low Road «More remote»
Strength Away From It All «I think I had a good dream»
Strength Away From It All «We’re busy»
Strength Away From It All «Let him do it alone»
Strength No Escape «Sit in the corner with Asra»
The Hermit The Hermit «Good thing you got away»
Wheel of Fortune Hungry Eyes «Do it»
Wheel of Fortune Hungry Eyes «We didn’t find the Doctor»
Justice Bound Together «You’re always there for me»
Justice The Whole Truth «Tell them he’s innocent»
The Hanged Man Calm Before The Storm «What about you»
The Hanged Man Calm Before The Storm «Tell her a little»
The Hanged Man Last Rites «I’d do anything»
The Hanged Man Last Rites «Resist the feeling»
Death Shadow Of The Past «Unlock the door»
Death Shadow Of The Past «I’d do the same for you»
Temperance Visions And Illusions «Don’t worry, I’m fine»
The Devil Faustian Bargain «Cancel the masquerade»
The Devil Faustian Bargain «You’d do the same for me»
The Devil Faustian Bargain «Yes»
The Tower Sound And Fury «I can’t do this alone»
The Tower Sound And Fury «Turn away»
The Tower Sound And Fury «No»
The Star Homeward Bound «I just want this to be over»
The Star Homeward Bound «Grab Asra’s hand»
The Star Homeward Bound «Find a safer path»
The Moon From The Other Side «What do we do»
The Moon From The Other Side «Let him help me»
The Moon From the Other Side «Asra can heal me»
The Sun Full Circle «Let me come with you»
The Sun Full Circle «Approach the water»

The Arcana: Nadia Walkthrough Upright & Reversed

Nadia Upright Walkthrough

Book Chapter Choice
The Lovers A Private Audience «I have questions first»
The Lovers Midnight Visit «I want freedom to come and go»
The Chariot Lazaret «I heard the island calling»
The Chariot Lazaret «You’re underestimating them»
The Chariot Lazaret «You’re shivering too»
Strength Horsing Around «Sounds like they were worried»
Strength Horsing Around «You don’t need to prove anything»
Strength The Ivory Estate «No»
Strength The Ivory Estate «Let’s try magic»
Strength The Ivory Estate «Stand my ground»
Strength Unwelcome Help «Ask him yourself»
Strength Unwelcome Help «What’s Prakra like»
The Hermit Between The Lines «I have a few suggestions»
The Hermit Safe Harbor «You should talk to her»
Wheel of Fortune The Portia Problem «Let’s ask her directly»
Wheel of Fortune The Portia Problem «She really cares about you»
Wheel of Fortune An Eventful Lunch «I have a plan»
Wheel of Fortune An Eventful Lunch «You can’t do it alone»
Justice Nadia vs The Court «We still need answers»
The Hanged Man Contemplation «They believe in you»
The Hanged Man The Hunt «People can change»
Death Dark Horizon «We could ask your sisters»
Temperance Ravenous Crowds «How can we help»
The Devil Ghostly Prey «I wouldn’t take the deal»
The Devil Ghostly Prey «I wouldn’t kill him»
The Tower Convergence «Follow the dog»
The Tower Convergence «You tried to do it alone»
The Sun Last Resort «I’ll help you for Nadia»

Nadia Reversed Walkthrough

Book Chapter Choice
The Lovers A Private Audience «Unconditionally»
The Lovers Midnight Visit «You’ve already been so generous»
The Chariot Lazaret «I don’t want to worry her»
The Chariot Lazaret «They seem useless»
The Chariot Lazaret «Let her take care of me»
Strength Horsing Around «They sound awful»
Strength Horsing Around «I know how you feel»
Strength The Ivory Estate «Yes sir»
Strength The Ivory Estate «Ask Nadia for help»
Strength The Ivory Estate «Run away»
Strength Unwelcome Help «Let Nadia ask»
Strength Unwelcome Help «Seethe with Nadia»
The Hermit Between The Lines «Keep my mouth shut»
The Hermit Safe Harbor «You should send her away»
Wheel of Fortune The Portia Problem «Let’s test her»
Wheel of Fortune The Portia Problem «She lied to you»
Wheel of Fortune An Eventful Lunch «Do you have a plan»
Wheel of Fortune An Eventful Lunch «You should do it all»
Justice Nadia vs The Court «But we won»
The Hanged Man Contemplation «You gave them what they wanted»
The Hanged Man The Hunt «It was Lucio’s fault»
Death Dark Horizon «We can do it alone»
Temperance Ravenous Crowds «I’m sorry, Milady is really busy»
The Devil Ghostly Prey «I’d take the deal»
The Devil Ghostly Prey «I’d kill him»
The Tower Convergence «Don’t follow»
The Tower Convergence «Lucio would have never listened»
The Sun Last Resort «No, let him rot»

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