How to Get Rid of Butterflies in My Stomach, Healthfully
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How to Get Rid of Butterflies in My Stomach
Butterflies in the stomach can happen on any number of occasions, such as a first date, wedding day, job presentation or right before a sporting event. Since stress can have damaging effects on mental and physical health it is important to utilize healthy stress-busting techniques to calm those butterflies. Everyone deals with nervousness in their own way, so find the techniques that work best for you. Techniques may include performing one or two yoga poses before an important speech or using breathing exercises before the big game.
If you are experiencing serious medical symptoms, seek emergency treatment immediately.
Take a deep, slow breath. Breathe in through your nose and simultaneously relax your stomach muscles. Allow your stomach to fill with air and keep inhaling to fill the middle of your chest. You should feel your chest and rib cage expanding. Slowly exhale through your nose and relax your chest and rib cage. Pull your stomach in to force remaining breath out. Stress means that muscles tighten, resulting in shallow breathing. The body recognizes shallow breathing with a fight-or-flight response, according to Madeline Vane, MPH (Masters in Public Health) via Everyday Health, which adds to feelings of stress and tension 1. Take five or ten deep breaths to relieve tension. You can also try visualization techniques while taking deep breaths, such as visualizing a white sand beach or other «happy place.»
Consume some protein and carbohydrates if possible. Protein-rich foods such as salmon, chicken, tuna and whole grains are full of B vitamins, which help you feel less nervous. Carbohydrates such as whole grain pasta, whole wheat breads and rice pasta release serotonin in the brain, thus acting like a mild tranquilizer. Eat vegetables such as bell peppers, mushrooms and and spinach, which also help calm the body.
Skip the coffee or other caffeinated beverages as caffeine makes nervousness worse. Go for an herbal tea such as chamomile, which has calming and soothing properties.
Stay positive. Talk yourself out of nervousness with a pep talk such as repeating empowering phrases such as «I’ll be okay» and «I can do this.» Replace sentences that begin with «What if. » with «So what?» to help yourself feel better.
Use essential oils to calm nerves, such as lavender essential oil. Place a few drops of the oil on an handkerchief or tissue and breathe the aroma whenever possible.
Heat contributes to calming the nerves, so try warming heat socks, gloves and heat packs, or take a warm bath or shower if possible. Exercise regularly, which helps manage overall stress. Try a few yoga poses or take a quick, brisk walk for an instant stress-buster. Tension can build up in the shoulders, neck, jaw and hands, so book a massage to beat stress.
Short term effects of stress include an elevated heartbeat, back pain, fast breathing and upset stomach, nausea and diarrhea. Long-term effects can include a weakened immune system, muscle pain, heart health issues and skin problems such as acne.
Butterflies in the stomach can happen on any number of occasions, such as a first date, wedding day, job presentation or right before a sporting event. Slowly exhale through your nose and relax your chest and rib cage. Take five or ten deep breaths to relieve tension. You can also try visualization techniques while taking deep breaths, such as visualizing a white sand beach or other «happy place.» Use essential oils to calm nerves, such as lavender essential oil.
Getting Rid of Mice
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Mice Won’t Leave
My wife and I have lived in the same rent-stabilized apartment for 39 years. Several months ago (and this had never happened to us before), we started getting an occasional mouse. The super came up half a dozen times and put down some kind of poison and mousetraps. We cleaned out our closets and have never left food out overnight. But still the mice come. What are the most effective methods we should be using? (By the way, we have no children or pets, so a powerful poison would not be a problem for us.)
Upper East Side, Manhattan
Mice make terrible house guests. They show up at odd hours, ransack your pantry, make a mess and never leave. But it’s not personal: They would behave that way with any of us. “There are two types of people, the people who have mice and the people who are going to get mice,” said Mario Merlino, the assistant commissioner for pest control services at the city’s Department of Health and Mental Hygiene.
Luckily for you, it took the pests 39 years to find you. But now that your grace period has ended, you and your landlord will have to outsmart them. State law requires landlords to keep apartments vermin free and the city housing code puts the onus on both owners and occupants of apartments. “The landlord has to do whatever it takes to solve the problem,” said Samuel Himmelstein, a Manhattan lawyer who represents tenants.
But you should help. Start with a flashlight. Use it to check in the dark corners of your apartment, such as inside closets and in and around furniture. The droppings you find will tell you where mice are hiding.
Clean up any droppings. If you find any in the pantry, store dry goods in sealed plastic containers. In the rooms where you found droppings, the super should plug holes and gaps with caulk or steel wool. Spraying more pesticides might seem like a quick fix, but dousing your home in poison has its downsides. “It’s not something that you want in your environment unless you need it,” Mr. Merlino said. If the landlord is slow to act, send a letter demanding a thorough treatment. If the problem continues, you could file a complaint with 311. A city inspector could issue a violation to the owner if he or she finds evidence of vermin. If all else fails (and your lease allows it), consider enlisting another furry visitor in your task: a house cat.
Crack in the Floor
My husband and I have a month-to-month market-rate lease for an apartment on the second floor of a four-story walk-up; a nail salon on the floor below is undergoing renovations. In the shower, I noticed a crack between the tub and tile floor through which I could see into the salon below. I have concerns about the building’s structural integrity and our safety because of this new construction, recurring leaks and shoddy repairs. We called our landlord, but he is out of state and will not send anyone to look at our unit. We’ve had issues in the past, including bedbugs, and our landlord has refused to pay for or fix any of them because he “keeps the rent low.” We don’t want to move, but how can we effectively deal with our landlord and make sure our apartment is safe?
Park Slope, Brooklyn
As a rule, you should not be able to check out the manicures in the downstairs nail salon from your bathtub. Call 311 today. Tell the operator that you would like an inspector from the Department of Buildings to inspect your apartment because you are concerned about the structural integrity of the building. You should also ask that an inspector from the Department of Housing Preservation and Development be sent to look at the leaks and shoddy repairs. In extreme cases, the city could make the repairs and bill the landlord, according to David Kaminsky, a Manhattan real estate lawyer. At the very least, a citation from the city might get the landlord’s attention.
You could request a rent abatement for the problems you’ve endured and also could bring what is known as an HP proceeding against the landlord in housing court to get a judge to compel him to do the work. Regardless of how much (or how little) rent you pay, a landlord must keep an apartment in good repair. He might think someone else would pay a premium for a unit with peepholes in the floorboards and a history of bedbugs, but I wouldn’t bet on it.
Buying a Co-Op, Living in a Rental
I live in a rent-stabilized apartment. I’d like to buy a co-op elsewhere to renovate and flip, but not to live in. Can the owner of the rent-stabilized apartment start eviction proceedings against me? Separately, am I permitted to own the co-op unit without actually living in it?
Stuyvesant Town, Manhattan
Tenants of rent-stabilized apartments are allowed to own property elsewhere so long as the primary residence is the rent-stabilized unit. It’s not uncommon for a rent-stabilized tenant to own a vacation home in, say, Montauk. Where you run into trouble is if you live in that second home for more than half the year. Since you do not plan to live in your second home, your landlord would have no grounds to evict you. But “the fact that the landlord cannot evict you doesn’t mean he won’t try,” said Eric D. Sherman, a Manhattan real estate lawyer.
If the landlord tries to evict you, the process is slow and laborious, so there’s time to prepare. And as long as you can show that the rent-stabilized apartment is your primary residence, you would not lose your apartment. But you might have to hire a lawyer to defend yourself against a nonresidency claim.
The other half of your plan could be problematical as well. Co-op rules frequently require shareholders to use their apartments as a primary residence, and a board would not be likely to allow a purchase by a buyer who did not plan to live in the building. You would probably be better off buying a condominium, where the rules tend to be far more flexible.